It may seem that boudoir photography should be done by women. The reason you might assume that is pretty obvious, due to the nature of the images, it may feel to you that a female would make you feel more comfortable since you know… they have the same body parts.
The truth is that a female photographer can still make you feel uncomfortable.
Working With a Female May Cause Tension
The first reason is if you work with a female, tensions may arise, especially if you think she is beautiful or vise versa. It could lead to you or the photographer feeling undermined. From a primitive standpoint, genders of the same species see themselves as competition, especially when it comes to sex & intimacy.
It’s not just a cliche skit that women talk behind / gossip about other females around them, especially when it comes to being around the men they want. You’ve seen mean girls, right? Of course, not all women get competitive, but that instinct is still somewhere, even in married women. Heck, I overheard my mother’s super religious friend admit that she feels some envy when she’s around other females, including her!
I am trying to say that working with a female photographer is way more likely to lead to some tension in one way or another, before, during, or after your photoshoot. Stress is the number one boudoir experience killer.
Males Can Better Capture Your Sexy
If you are a heterosexual (straight) female then of course being with a male in such an intimate setting will surely let your sexual energy flow out more freely which will lead to sexier images.
A male will also photograph you in the sexiest way possible. He will have your best interest in mind. On the other hand, females are compelled to level the playing field by any means necessary. In photography, this could lead to not so sexy images. Images that could have been just a bit better. Whether that be in lighting or angle, you get the idea. Plus, even if she has your best interest in mind, males can capture sexy pictures in a way that a female photographer just won’t be able to do. A woman may assume what is considered a sexy pose or look, but in reality, a man may not find it enticing & may even find it awkward. I can’t tell you how many female boudoir images I’ve seen that I would not even consider boudoir or sexy. Instead, I ask myself, why? We have a different perspective, that casual outfit a female photographer might feel is not sexy enough, like a tank top. For example, it may, in fact, be sexy from a man’s point of view if captured perfectly.
If you work with a high-quality male photographer like myself, you may even receive better images as I am able to see your inner beauty & sexiness as well, which results in more personal & powerful images.
I also wanted to point out that intimate & erotic photography, apart from boudoir, is, for the most part, work done by men, think Maxim, Sports Illustrated, Playboy, as examples of well-known brands that hire male photographers.
At the end of the day, it is your decision. You should work with whoever has the style you like & who you know will make you feel amazing during your experience. I hope I was able to help you understand why working with a man may be the better choice!